Ethical Fuckboi

Category: Full Guide

  • Table of Contents

  • Introduction

    This is a collection of sex techniques, tips, and advice that I have learned and developed.

    I don’t claim to be any sort of sex expert, but I have had pretty consistent success giving women plenty of orgasms. Most modern I’ve been with recently, I’ve given them more orgasms than they’ve ever had before.

    Also this is done without being particularly well endowed or having any really notable sexual performance or abilities in bed. A lot of the “work” is done by various sex toys, so

  • Pre-Sex Setup

    LED mood lighting

    Sexy background music playlist

    • Ideally, use a Bluetooth speaker connected to a second phone
      • Don’t have to worry about connecting/disconnecting if you leave the apartment
      • You don’t need to show her your phone or get distracted to change the music
    • Leave the music running when you leave, then there’s nothing to mess with when you bring her over.
    • Spotify Playlists:

      Bedroom Layout

      • Spray bedsheets with cheap cologne or Axe Body Spray before she arrives
        • Gives the room a sexy smell, especially when she’s face down into the sheets
      • Bed restraints
        • Attach straps (Velcro or rope) clipped into corners
      • Have sex toys, paddles, vibrators, blindfolds, ropes, etc. easily accessible by the bed
      • Other accessories
        • Squirt lube bottle for lube
        • Incense holder
        • Massage oil and bottle warmer

    • Initial Escalation

      I usually start off intense. Kiss her and push her back against to door as soon as we walk into my apartment.

      Picking up girls (even thicker girls) doesn’t require that much strength. I bend down slightly, grip her thighs, and pull her into me while standing up fully. The key is to get her weight over my hips, so my hands are only older her against me, not supporting her full weight.

      I pick her up and press her against the door, hard. Petite chicks are used to being picked up and carried around, but the thicker chicks are usually very surprised and exited by it.

      I carry her right into the bedroom. Kick the door closed us, pin her against it for a bit, before carrying her over to the bed and throwing her down on it.

      Transition to Physical

      If the vibe isn’t fully sexual as we get back to my place, I do some of the following up escalate things:

      • Either Netflix/chat distraction or direct sexual escalation.
      • Early physical dominance: hair pulling, neck kissing, light choking.
      • Avoids permission-seeking; instead, takes assertive lead.
      • Usually leads to couch makeout escalating within 10 minutes.
        • Astrology/pagan decor used conversationally to build vibe.
        • Wine, bottled water, chilled sparkling water available

      Bedroom Transition

      • Sometimes carries her, otherwise guides her via hair pull/choking.
      • Pushes her against the wall for dominance; makes out again.
      • Either backs her in face-first or picks her up to carry.
      • Once in bed: spanking (starts with hand, not paddle), further stripping, and teasing.

    • Foreplay & Orgasms Before Penetration

      Orgasm Delay Strategy

      • Makes her orgasm with toys before sex.
      • Often tells her “not until you’re a good girl” when she begs for penetration.
      • Delays penis-in-vagina (PIV) for 30–40+ minutes.

      First Toy Introduction

      • Verbally introduces vibrator: “I want to use my vibrator on you.”
      • If any resistance: reassures on cleanliness (washed with soap, wiped with alcohol).
      • Usually no objections.

    • Sex Toys

      Primary Vibrator: Doxy Wand

      • Doxy Original
      • In general, the plug-in model is preferred over cordless
        • More power, deeper vibrations, no need to worry about charging
      • Position it directly on her clit
        • Pressure and intensity can be adjusted based on her sensitivity
          • Some chicks like it super gentle on the lowest setting
          • Other respond best when it’s on max power and pressed hard into her clit
      • Can be used passively (set in place with leg pressure).
      • Reliability is not great
        • I’ve gone through 4 of them in the past 5 years (2 were replaced under warranty)
        • Be careful when cleaning or getting it wet
        • It will overheat and auto-shut off if the run it for ~15 minutes on max power (yes, some chicks want that much and more)
          • Make sure to give it a break to cool off to prevent damage

      Cheaper Primary Vibrator: Hitachi Magic Wand

      • Hitachi Magic Wand Original
      • Only two power levels (Doxy has eight)
      • Less range in power (Lowest setting is higher than the Doxy’s lowest settings. Highest setting is lower than the Doxy)
        • Many chicks only enjoy the lowest setting

      Secondary Vibrator (Smaller): Domi 2

      • LOVENSE Domi 2
      • Portable, compact, battery powered.
      • Much smaller vibrator head, so it can be used in positions where the Doxy head too large (see below for “combinations”).
      • More of a high pitch vibration, not a low rumble, compared to bigger plug-in vibrators. Not the most ideal form of stimulation.
      • Lowest setting is often too powerful, but high setting is very powerful.
      • Had bluetooth feature I’ve never uses

      Secondary Vibrator (Suction Clitoral Style)

      • Satisfyer Pro 2: Suction and Clitoral Stimulation Vibrator
      • Thumb-suction style; lower intensity.
      • Many chicks are familiar with this style
      • Requires specific positioning over her clitoris to work correctly. Easiest way to start, is to take her hand and have her guide you into position
      • Sitting in lap position
      • Bonus, from this position:
        • Choke her
        • Play with her tits
        • Pull her hair
        • Talk dirty right into her ear
        • Choke her extra hard right as she orgasms

      G-spot “Dildo”: njoy Wand

      • njoy Pure Wand
        • Cheaper clones of this can be found on Amazon and other sites
      • Stainless steel, curved for G-spot stimulation
        • As you thrust the dildo in and out of her pussy, the bulb end rubs across her G-spot at the top/roof of her pussy
      • Start slow and gentle
        • Always use plenty of lube
        • Warn her that it’s cold at first, but most chicks like it
        • Play with it inside her, while talking to her to get feedback on how she likes it
          • Deeper vs shallower thrusts
          • Fast vs slow strokes
          • Rough vs firm thrusting
          • You can also play with the angle, to press more into where her G-spot is
      • After she gets used to it, you can go really rough
        • Seriously, don’t underestimate how hard you can pound her pussy while you grip the toy
        • This will frequently trigger squiring
          • If she hasn’t squired before, she’ll describe it as “I feel like I need to pee”. Encourage her to let you keep going until she squirts.
      • Most chicks prefer the smaller end
        • A minority do like the big end and like it really rough (they will be sore the next day)
      • It’s usually easiest to start with her positioned laying on her back
        • But the toy works great with her on her hands and knees (you’ll be holding it “upside down”)
        • Also works with her on her side or basically any position
        • Can be combined with tying her up
      • Some chicks prefer “inside”/G-spot stimulation vs clitoral stimulation
        • You can usually tell these chicks because they are less enthusiastic about the vibrator and often instant about you fingering/them

    • Other Bedroom Toys

      Restraints

      Blindfold

      • Used to heighten sensory anticipation
      • These buff / neck gaiters work better than typical BDSM blindfolds (they stay in place much better as she’s moving around)
      • Often paired with restraint to enhance control and surprise.
      • You can put it on her very early in sex, when you’re still making out or even as you just get into bed. It takes a lot of the pressure off of you to perform.

      Paddles

      • Basic leather paddle — I just got mine from a sex shop
      • Silicone paddle — for much more painful smacks
      • Acrylic paddle – Maximum intensity. You can break skin if you hit hard enough.
        • Warning: acrylic is brittle and can snap if you bend it too much

      Coconut oil

      • Coconut oil on a candle warmer for warm, multi-purpose use — massage, tits, penetration lube (don’t use with latex condoms)

      Candles

      Wax play with sex-safe candles

      • Have a ceramic/glass dish on hand, so you can stop the candle from dripping on her, without blowing it out
      • You can change how intense the heat/pain is by controlling the height of the candle (the longer distance the wax drips before hitting her skin, the more it cools before touching her)

      Ice Cubes

    • Advanced Sex Toy Usage and Combinations

      Oral While Using Toys On Her

      • Have her lay her on back along the edge of the bed
      • Stand close to her face, rotate her head so she can suck your cock
      • At the same time, reach across her and use the njoy dildo toy on her
      • Dirty talk her
        • “You like taking it from both ends, don’t you?!”
      • You can also use the vibrator on her in this position
        • The larger Doxy or Hitachi Magic Wand work best because the longer handle makes it easier to hold while reaching
        • If you really want to contort yourself, get both hands involved and use both the njoy dildo and vibrator on her

      Her on her hands and knees, using both toys on her [[[IMG]]]

      Prone-bone with vibrator underneath [[[IMG]]]

      Use of both toys simultaneously while she’s tied up.

      Holding her while using toys, dirty talking, groping.

      Encourages her to say “tell me before you come” for orgasm timing control.

      Uses toy while she gives him a blowjob; can escalate to double penetration (toy + blowjob).

    • Penetration

      • Only proceeds after multiple orgasms.
      • Uses lube (including on himself) to ease entry.
      • Prefers spontaneous, dominant entries (e.g., fingering at door upon arrival).
      • May mix vaginal penetration with ongoing vibrator use.

    • Aftercare & Clean-up

      • Hand towels preferred to tissues.
      • Baby wipes available.
      • Notes girls vary in refractory period: some need 20 minutes; others 30 seconds.
      • SSRIs impact ability to orgasm and may require more effort.
      • Baby wipes, hand towels, and condoms (numbing, extra lube, and thin variants) on hand.
      • Breath mints and gum available.